Anyone else get paranoid about sharing drinks with friends now?
Went to a barbecue last weekend and someone offered me a sip of their beer, and I just froze because I could feel that faint tightness on my lip that sometimes turns into something. I made up an excuse and felt like a weirdo the rest of the night. It has been years since my first one and I still have not figured out how to be normal about this stuff around people who do not get them. Does it ever stop feeling awkward, or do you just say it out loud and move on?
Honestly yes, I still catch myself doing the little "no thanks I'm good" wave when someone offers a sip, even months after my last one. It felt silly at first but my friends who know just started bringing their own straw or a second cup without making it weird, and that helped more than I expected.
This is exactly the kind of thing the community is for. Small consistent habits beat any single fix, in my experience.
Honestly yes, I've become that person who quietly says "I'm good, thanks" when someone offers a sip, and I still feel a little silly about it. It helps to remember most of my friends don't even notice, they just think I'm not thirsty.
Yes, totally, I went from "sure, take a sip" to hovering my hand over my glass without even thinking about it. It got easier once I stopped treating it like a big awkward thing and just said "I'd rather not, long story" with a laugh, most people don't even blink.
Honestly yes, I've become the person who quietly says "I'm good, thanks" whenever someone offers a sip, and I felt weird about it for ages until I realized my friends genuinely don't care or even notice. Being a little careful isn't paranoid, it's just looking out for yourself and them, so try not to be too hard on yourself about it.
Honestly yes, I still hesitate for a second every time someone offers me a sip, even when I'm totally clear. It gets easier though, and I've found most friends don't think twice if you just say "I'll grab my own" and move on.
Honestly yes, I still hesitate for a second every time someone passes me a bottle, and I've kind of made peace with being the friend who always has her own water now.